Relationships
Unfortunately, but pandemic, stress, lockdowns and working from home has been tough on all of us. This new "normal" has put pressure on many relationships. Spending long periods of time together, often in close quarters, restrictions, financial problems, supervising kids and/or home schooling, and lack of socializing with friends and family are additional stressors and challenge for many couples.
There is no hard statistical data yet, but reports and research from across the world show us not all couples have adjusted well to new situation. The lawyers specializing in family law are reporting an alarming increase in the number of married couples filing for divorce and an increase in calls to initiate separations. Destructive relationship behaviours and incidents of domestic abuse have also increased.
Here are some of the key factors that affect how relationships fare during difficult times:
Bad communication skills and criticism can play a huge role in driving couples apart
Not knowing how to manage conflict constructively
Disagreements around parenting
Constant interrogation by a partner who has adopted the persona of a part-time police officer
Having an "I am right and my partner is wrong" attitude
Exhibiting defensiveness and counterattack
Blaming your partner without cause
Avoiding interacting with a partner or stonewalling
A lack of relationship skills
Not giving each other time to work on individual hobbies and personal time
A lack of socializing with other people
Not sharing responsibilities and duties (like maintaining home, meals, looking after the kids or other family members)
Not being open to finding solutions
Attacking their partner for how they feel or act
Not admitting any fault for relationship breakdown
"If there is anything that keeps the mind open to angel visits, and repels the ministry of ill, it is human love." ~ Willis
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